Survival Tips: Managing parenting arrangements for special occasions

yellow ball with drawn smileWhen negotiating parenting arrangements a lot of parents agree to share time in the school holidays but forget to specifically negotiate special holidays such as Birthdays, Easter and Christmas. This can make special occasions a very stressful period for all involved.

Try and remember that special occasions about making an enjoyable and memorable experience for the children. It will certainly not be in the children’s best interests to feel as if they are caught in the middle of a tug-of-war between their parents during special events.

If possible, you should try and negotiate plans that work well for everyone, particularly the children. The last thing you want to do is arrange times that effectively mean the children have to rush between households and won’t get to sit down and enjoy family time, such as a special lunch, at either home.

SURVIVAL TIPS

🔷 When organising parenting arrangements always remember that special occasions are about making an enjoyable and memorable experience for the children.

🔷 Consider where each parent plans to spend their time during the event and what this means in terms of travelling for the children.

🔷 Be mindful of any special arrangements that have been made such as family members attending for festivities that the children may have not seen for a long time.

🔷 Special customs and traditions that have significance for each family should be considered.

🔷 It’s all about the children! Allow them the freedom to have fun without having to worry about tensions between their family.

🔷 Try not to focus on the pain of the separation when making plans. Take a deep breath and focus on planning an enjoyable celebration for you and your children.

🔷 Create new traditions with your children that you can look forward to each year. Think of something fun that you can consistently re create each time the special occasion arises.

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